As families come together this summer, it’s a meaningful time to have conversations that matter—especially when it comes to planning for the future. At O’Connor Elder Law, we encourage families to use these gatherings as an opportunity to talk about end-of-life care and make sure that loved ones’ wishes are clearly understood and legally protected.

What Is Advance Care Planning?

Advance care planning is the process of deciding and documenting what kind of medical care a person would want if they were seriously ill or unable to communicate. This often includes completing advance directives, such as a living will and a healthcare power of attorney. These documents help clarify treatment preferences and assign someone to make healthcare decisions on your behalf. Without these in place, families are often left in the dark during moments of crisis, which can lead to confusion, stress, or even disagreement.

Special Considerations for Veterans

According to the Department of Veterans Affairs, only about 25% of older adults have discussed their care preferences with their family. That means most families are unprepared when urgent decisions need to be made. For veterans, these conversations are even more important. Proper planning ensures that their care aligns with available VA benefits, such as Aid and Attendance, which can help cover costs related to home care, assisted living, or hospice services.

Starting the Conversation

Getting started with these conversations doesn’t have to be intimidating. Begin by creating a warm and open environment where everyone feels heard. Talking during a quiet family meal or during a calm afternoon at home can make the process feel less clinical and more personal.

For families from diverse cultural or linguistic backgrounds, having materials and professionals who can speak their language—literally and figuratively—makes all the difference. We also recommend connecting with professionals who can walk you through the legal side of advance care planning. Estate planning attorneys, elder care coordinators, and mediators can help families navigate complex decisions, avoid conflict, and ensure that documents are properly completed.

We’re Here to Help

At O’Connor Elder Law, we believe that planning ahead is a powerful act of love. When families take the time to have these conversations and put the right documents in place, they protect one another from uncertainty and ensure care that reflects their values. This summer, give your family the peace of mind that comes from being prepared.